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4 Ways You May Be Manipulating and You Didn't Know It 

We want things in life…well at least most of us do. And the thing is, it is hard not to be attached to those wants, and desires. In fact, we may be so attached to power, control, or desire, that we can end up manipulating.

In my temple system lineage, the Dolphin Star Higher Council, we were asked to commit to being impeccable as a person. This doesn't mean perfect, but it does mean abiding by certain values because they not only keep us evolving, but they also help us hold a certain frequency for the planet. So, today I wanted to bring up the subtle ways we can get caught going into lower vibration.  Manipulation is the kind of thing that might  not always be dark magic, because it doesn't necessarily wish evil upon a person; but it is not light either.  It's in between…grey.  It is no different than a sorcerer using a spell to make someone do something beyond their free will.  If it is done using words or lies…then be aware you are working out of the light.

When working with others, I find this to be quite prevalent in the group consciousness on this planet…so I thought it would be a good one to address for us all to check within and ask, how much do I participate in this? Check below to see if you have ever done these behaviors.

1. Buttering Someone Up. This happens when you know there is something you want from someone, and so you offer something you think they want, but it is not from a pure place.  In fact, you don't care about the success or bringing kindness to the person at all. Your intention is solely to get what you need from them and thus the giving is self-serving.  This is not to say we can't have win-win's in life. We can, but when you know in your heart you deliberately are thinking, "How can I make this person do what I want?", then you have left the realm of win-win, and gone into manipulation.

2. Obligation. This one is similar to the one above, except if you have done something for someone, and you feel they owe you now.  In fact, perhaps you may even create a situation where you do something just so you can get what you want through creating a frequency of guilt in the interaction.  Oh boy, when you enter this realm, you are going down a path of unnecessary turmoil for you attract people who will eventually fight back when they feel you have laid a guilt trip on them too much.  Suddenly you are in a psychic fight where people don't want to feel caught under your thumb.

3. Facade. This is when a person creates the appearance that they are accepting of you or something you like or do, but really they are going to try to control your behavior anyway.  Perhaps a father wants his son to not play a sport.  He may tell the son you can play it, but then when its time to play it, he is only allowed to do it in the backyard.  Thus, rather than telling the true feelings and helping his son understand his concerns about the sport (ie. football and brain injury), he has made it appear like his child is free, while truly still restricting and controlling him.  Eventually, people catch on to this one, and it will create animosity in relationships.

4. Create a Story.  Last, but not least, this is another way of saying: lying. White lie, or big lie, it is out of integrity because it is a way to manipulate, and even worse, bend someone's will against their permission.  If you lie to get what you want, it might be to convince someone of something you want to do that they might otherwise say no to.  However, creating a story makes it a lot easier.  You don't have to deal with their "no", and you can also make them feel like they have to say yes.  For example, you may create a dire situation to make sure people think it is an exceptional situation, an extenuating circumstance, thereby causing them to say "yes" this one time.

White lies may not seem like a big deal, but they do 2 things.  They create a pattern of doing that to get out of uncomfortable situations which stops us from learning to speak our truth, and to work things out. They also as a result build a web around the energy field that eventually turns into something that looks like a spider web of negative energy because they have a cumulative effect.

See how intricate this dynamic can get?  The fact of the matter is, it is a way of devolving (did I coin a word?). You can learn to be with the flow of the Universe, co-create, and detach from desire which will ultimately make you free. Or you can live your life following every whim or impulse, a slave. When we begin to speak the truth of what we need, and sometimes get what we want, and sometimes not, we learn that this Universe was meant to be a cocreation of allowing and harmony.  We learn to share and this, my people, makes a better world.

With love,

Ariah

Ariah is a counselor, Pleiadian healer, and New-thought minister. http://www.blissfullifecounseling.info/ariah-s-healing-bloghttp://www.ariahvelasquez.wordpress.com

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Ariah Velasquez - Passive Aggressiveness is the Wounded Heart - 12 July 2014 

 

 

Today I speak about passive aggressiveness because it is frequently a choice when people are not in tune with their own wounding.  It is the heart that longs for freedom, not repression, and when the egoic mind feels like it can't control, or be the best, or get all the attention, or any other games that the mind will tell a person they need to play, then we as humans  (when unconscious) will leave our true natures behind and attempt to harm.  When thinking about being passive aggressive, we may justify it to ourselves, and say, "Oh this won't really hurt anyone", because it is subtle, so what does it matter?  Yet, this is a very tiny view of the the Universe, Earth, and the multi-faceted existence we live in. 

 

You see, every single action we take, has a reaction, whether seen or unseen. When we act from bitterness, and purposeful harm, we are only creating a world for ourselves where we attract and reflect the same things to come our way.  This does not happen by retaliation, but from the nature of the Universe to be our reflection.  The Universe will reflect what you put into it.  It is easy to blame our lives on others, but when we begin to take responsibility for our actions, we actually do create a life of splendor and peace.  When we realize every thought and action not taken from consciousness of our hearts wounds, is then displayed somewhere else in our life in the form of suffering, change occurs. It is said that what you put out there, comes back 10-fold.  Imagine if all your wounds were dissolved with your awareness, so that only loving actions are what you exhibit in the world?  How would your life look?

 

But what are loving actions?  Many think loving actions mean you do what others need all the time. That is not true.  If people need help, but they live there life constantly as a victim, then helping them would only serve to keep them in a painful cycle they have created.  Therefore, love does not always come in the form many would like it to.  It will come sometimes as truth, or even as a "no".  

 

What do you do if you are the recipient of passive aggressive behavior? Many feel safe exhibiting this type of behavior because it is covert, and so they feel they will never be called out on it.  It may not be your job to call out the behavior.  The Universe's response to energy will do that.  So, the best thing you can do is to realize first, the deep suffering this person must be in to spend their time and energy on trying to harm others.  Not only have they had this behavior done to them many times, therefore they feel justified, but they also are quite disconnected from their source energy of light as well.  

 

There a few things to do.  One is to call upon the Supreme being of Earth.  The Supreme being watches over Gaia, and intervenes giving healing without your needing permission.  This is because our souls have actually already contracted and agreed to this before incarnation.  We actually have asked the Supreme Being to step in when we lose our way.  You can thus call the Supreme being for that person and see the light streaming out of a large glistening presence into the person's crown chakra.  You then ask that the light stream into their heart, and see this occurring.  Next, you ask that this person receive whatever healing they are needing right now. If necessary, and if it makes sense, you also can remove yourself from the situation.   You also want to specifically ask that whatever your soul wounding is that attracted this person to do these actions also be cleared.  Ask that all contracts, and cords be cut NOW to any aspect of you that aligns with the frequency for which they send.  And most importantly, call in the angels of forgiveness for yourself, for you past energies that now show up in the form of this person. 

 

Another healing ritual you can do is to call about the Great White Brotherhood and SIsterhood of the Light.  You ask for them to open up a coning.  You then connect your higher self of the light to this coning.  A coning is an energy that literally comes above you and your healing space, and pulls out negative, toxic energy.  Next, summon the nature spirit Pan to connect to the coning.  Pan helps maintain integrity in a healing process as well as acts as a bridge to Great White Brotherhood and Sisterhood.  You then call upon the higher self of the person exhibiting the passive aggressive behavior to connect to the coning.  They will connect because on the higher planes, all requests from the light is responded to for all is in service to light.  Once all has been connected, you then summon any other deities of the light to connect to the coning that you resonate with.  I often use the Ascended Master Jesus Christ, as well as the mighty Elohim of Divine Grace.  

 

When the space is set, you begin to ask for clearing to occur.  You name everything you think that needs to be cleared. Is it attacks, jealousy, blame, discord?  Once you have asked for all of this to be removed, you then summon the deities to replace all that was removed with love, peace, whatever it is your desiring.  Of course, they will not respond to request that are not of the highest divine light.  

 

We are never victims.  No matter what others do, we have the power to create a reality we want through consciousness and healing.  When we realize all is multidimensional, this means, all souls have a spirit that is light somewhere.  When you access the true nature of the person, intervention occurs, peace prevails. Love is the most powerful force in the Universe, and heals all.  There is no darkness that trumps light and love.  As long as you know this, you are always sitting one with God/Goddess.

 

 

Blessings,

 

Ariah

 

We are one. Ariah is a counselor, Pleiadian healer, and New-thought minister. connect here http://www.facebook.com/ariah.blissfullife Copyright 2013

What to do When People Play Emotional Games 

 

 

I get a lot of people coming to me with questions about the title of this article. Why do so many people on planet Earth seem to find relief through playing games to hurt, harm, get what they want, share a message without speaking it directly, or show someone they are hurt by hurting back? I see this as a wounded condition of some that are still waking up to the whole concept that we create our own reality.  I also see this behavior coming from a place of people not spending daily time connecting to their underlying impulses, and subconscious issues.  When we don't spend time looking deep within on a daily level understanding what drives us, then we will tend to take actions that we feel are justified. We may say to ourselves, well if this person said that to me, then I am going to do this to them.  This is the revengeful approach.  Then their is the unconscious approach: well, I want to feel loved, so I will distance myself when I am afraid someone will not love me. These are just examples of the way humans play games with each other.  Unfortunately, when it comes to these type of games, no one ever wins. And one of the biggest issues is that many times these actions are done towards others due to their own assumptions that something is happening, without ever discussing it with them or having proof. Sure, a person can have an intuition, but a lot of the time, interpersonal dynamics are misconstrued because of a person's own wounding.

So, how do we deal with people that are doing these types of behaviors?  We could choose to get angry, but that wouldn't really solve anything, would it? In the past, I might have told myself or clients to talk it out with the person.  However, what I have learned over the years is that if the other people are not willing to live from a non-blaming place, or if they are really not honest enough with self to explore their actions or role, a conversation proves fruitless. It just ends in pain.  Carl Jung said in so many words that communication is overrated.  It made me chuckle when I first heard this because there is some truth to this.  Communication really only works when people are really committed to trying to work things out.  In compassionate communication techniques, there is a theory that as long as the other person is in a state of empathy, then the other one in conflict will come around.  This may work 50% of the time…so then what?Surrender and shift focus.  Let them do what they do.  Let them "win", because it is only themselves they harm.  Basically, ignore it.  Do not put your attention on what they do. Do not even respond.  If they come and meet you halfway with a loving action, that is when you respond.  This is different than a game because you are choosing to focus on only positive energy.  The intent is not to harm, and that is the difference. Then, if the person comes back at you with the old, less healthy energy, withdraw your energy again. You see, when you pay attention to things you don't want, you merely attract it more. So it is taking the conscious stand to focus on loving actions and shift focus on all else. If they continue to use these manipulative behaviors in a way that is disturbing the homeostasis of your life, then it may be time if possible to shut the door.  A yogi tea bag said once on it, the purpose of life is to be joyful.  I agree. Do not waste time and energy by focusing on people that take actions from unconscious places. And you know what else? Don't worry about what they think of you. One of my favorite all time quotes is: it's none of your business what other people think of you. True, so true. 

Many people have lost their own family members due to what I speak of here, specifically in the lightworker community.  This is because as you wake up to the truth of reality, you begin to see that all reflections are for information for you to heal. This means, that even the person doing the odd behaviors is there to teach you something and so you begin to be willing to sit vulnerably with others to resolve things. However, with these new skills, we also learn as lightworkers we may be disappointed when others haven't quite reached that realization yet.  In fact, when you sit with them vulnerably sharing with an open heart, they may even use that as a time to actually throw energetic darts.  Yes, if this is in your reality, this may be trying to teach you something: to choose loving reflections.  Sometimes the lesson alone is for you to detach from people and send them on there way, loving them as a soul from afar.  You do not need to put up with abuse and games to be a lightworker.  You merely need to live authentically.  This can mean being aware when someone uses covert opportunities to harm. Choose those who vibrate from loving intention, truly.  This may mean you find those to deeply connect with that are far and few between.  That is why I believe many lightworkers keep to themselves and at times experience the illusion of loneliness. I believe once you are a person that is truly able to see beyond the actions of others, to see what is underneath, that knowing this information can sometimes bring up sadness as well.    Yet, the less you focus on these actions, the more you will be propelled back to those that are of your true soul group of evolved beings. This statement is not a put-down for those that choose to play games. It is simply a matter of asking what kind of energies and feelings do you feel comfortable around. Trust your instincts.  When something feels really bad, even if you may have  a role in a dynamic, it probably is. It probably is a discordant energy that you are ready to release. This means releasing your part about it, and yes, sometimes releasing the person.  This releasing of the person may be temporary.  They may come around again and you will resonate with them in the future, but for now, accept what is.  Accept what is and bless them on their way.

An exercise to release discordant energy:

Place the right hand over the left hand on the heart and say in your head or out loud:

My heart, I love you.

My mind, I love you.

I forgive myself for anything I have done or said that needs to be forgiven.

And I release my attachment to the unkind words or actions others have done or said towards me.

I recognize my own beauty.

I believe in myself and in my dreams.

I am bountiful, I am beautiful, and I am blissful.

I AM.

I am at peace.

I am whole.

I am loved.

I rest in the light of this truth.

With much love,

Ariah Velasquez

 

 Copyright 2013

We are one. 

Enter the Rabbit Hole and Fearlessly Create 

 

Hold on with commitment, because even though it seems like we're going up in this New Earth, we're actually going in. Wow. This ride is not for the faint of heart. It can be a vulnerable and volatile time as you go deeper and deeper into your rabbit hole. The deeper you go, the more you will find the illusion can test you with more intense, more covert manifestations. People will question you more than before, they will tell you that you are crazy, got it wrong, are not authentic, are dark and not light, and you will know this means that you are going in deeper, emanating more light to attract the response. And then it is your role to not go into feeling powerful from the attention, because whether it is negative or positive attention, it does not matter. It is feeding the energy body. So you must constantly check in with the self and release the need to be important, release the need to be special, release the need to be right. We are all, all of these things. Parallel realities allow us to be everything. 

 

I love the quote from Rumi (gosh he is good):

 "The truth was a mirror in the hands of God. It fell, and broke into pieces. Everybody took a piece of it, and they looked at it and thought they had the truth."

This reflects truly what I say above. The need for humans to know it all, be righteous, and separate us vs. them is strong on this planet in one reality. Yet there is a dual consciousness going on all at once here, where the need for humans to feel connected and to say we are innocent, and know nothing with lots to learn is also is pervasive. Which do you choose? 

 

I find the more I go into the deep rabbit hole, the more I know nothing.  And even saying that could be a trick of the mind and a reason for it to tell you: "See you are so evolved now. You think you know nothing". Oh boy, this can get really intense. You can loop within the loop, within the loop, within the loop. That is why enlightenment is emptiness. At least, I think it is! Lol! All you have dear ones is your experience.  This is all that matters. This is your enlightenment.  There has always only been one and that is you. You choose how you experience the Universe and what makes it the splendid place to be.  

 

In my own experience, when I have felt the most clear, it has been when I have felt this emptiness I speak of.  To me, when I get the blessing of experiencing it (for with me it still comes and goes), I am a gurgling babylike consciousness, that is full of sweetness and wonder.  I have no thoughts that are charged with anything. I am innocent and love itself. When I have had this experience, I have not asked for it, at least not in that particular moment. It merely surfaces, because it always was.

 

And yet, there are ways to enter the rabbit hole more frequently. Deeply sharing yourself and accessing your creative nature will trigger it.  Do you notice when you get inspired by something, a book, a movie, a thought, you at times can go into this place of feeling deeply at peace and relaxed? Well, you have just entered the rabbit hole. 

 

Creativity is a key to accessing all that you are for you are truly a creative being.  Why is it that those who express their creativity often are the leaders on planet Earth? It does not matter if you are in the arts.  Being creative means you utilize this place of inspiration within the heart to share. When you do this, you immediately become a leader because your manifestation as a creator activates within others their desire to create. Oh, what a sweet canvas. How fun this life can be. 

 

Creations of all, light and dark, are only just the outcome of the intention underneath. I have heard someone say once why does spirit not hear when I say negative things? Why does spirit only listen to the positive, and not when I say I don't want something? You are spirit itself simply in separate form.  When you don't want, you have a vibration attached to that. You vibration is not what you say. It is the spirit behind it that creates. Do not blame it on spirit, source, and the Universe not listening. You are all that. 

 

As you go deeper and deeper into the spiral of life, claim your creativity, and shine it out to the world. Many I talk to say they do not know what is there's to shine out to the world. They say they do not know what they find passion in. Here is a brief healing I share to access the creative you that was and is always there.

 

Sit quietly, in the morning time, early morning if possible. 

 

Drink something, warm, and calming.  Even if it has caffeine, as long as it calms you and balances you that is fine. 

 

Make your whole purpose of getting up to simply listen. Listen to yourself, listen to the environment you sit in. Just listen.

 

Next call in your higher self of the light to fill your tube of light up. The tube of light is your central channel that runs through your chakras, also known as the Shushumna. 

 

Now ask you receive this transmission from your higher self the creativity activation, and the direct connection to the true nature of your mind. Visualize your mind dropping into you heart. Intend to feel the bliss of this merge.

 

End this activity by visualizing a huge violet flame encasing your whole energy field. Leave it around yourself for the rest of the day. It will help you transform.

 

This is very simple. Do this for 40 days. Listen to you dreams during the 40 days. You may receive visitations early in the mornings by aspects of the self, the one, the source, appearing in forms like Jesus, The Buddha, Mary Magdalene, the Pleaidians, other beings you feel aligned with. Be prepared to open up your sight into a new room. See what comes up. Be with it.

 

These words are encoded with healing and light.

 

With much love,

 

Ariah Velasquez

 

We are one. Ariah Velasquez is a new-thought minister, Pleaidian healer and counselor.www.blissfullifecounseling.info and blog.blissfullifecounseling.info. Copyright 2013. All right reserved.