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Love is Mystical 

Love is Mystical



Yes, love is mystical.  It is an alchemical process between source, spirit, and the heart.  It is who we are, and all that is.  How beings get to love in physical form has a majickal quality to it, because it is nothing that can be touched, this knowing and feeling of love.  It just is. 


    Realizing your own oneness can help with your ability to love.  As your soul heals, your brain heals,  and thus you begin to experience more and more this state of oneness.  You begin to break through the blocks that the brain has had from experiencing the true nature of reality.  The more you become merged with all things, the less your heart is closed.  You see, as you begin to feel the true connection to all things, it is impossible to hide and shield the heart.  The heart becomes free of the illusion of walls, as the body and spirit becomes free of them to.  The heart begins to merge with all that is, including your partners spiritual self.  With this merge, comes understanding the truth of who your partner is, and therefore the most profound experience of compassion you could  ever know. If you are merged with all that they are, how could you not see they come from love and light?  All the little things they do melt away more quickly, even though, your ego and mind may react or dislike aspects of their actions or personality.  It is your personality that judges something is good or bad, not your divine self that lies in the state of oneness.

    A client asked me once how the latter could be true when she knows in her heart killing or causing someone harm is "bad".  Here is the distinction: actions hold a frequency.  As you evolve, your desire to experience certain frequencies changes.  So it is not about one being bad or good.  Essentially all stems from God, because God is in everything.  Every experience is merely that: an experience.  So when you have decided something is bad, it means you no longer need to experience harming or the frequency of karma and pain on that level.  It is our higher selves wish that we all reach that place now as soon as possible, and yet, as beings birthed from all that is, from source, from God, we are given free will because Source has 

allowed us to experience free will even though we are a part of the whole.  It is when we surrender to divine will that we know we are reaching a spiritual consciousness that is merging closer and closer back to where we came from: the divine source which is light. 

The more we return to that essential source, the easier we can be conduits and receivers of love.  We are free of the blocks that make us feel seperate and therefore we don't NEED anything from another. We just need them to be.  Of course, they might have personality traits that match our personality traits, but beyond personality, unconditional love lives, and it is in this that relationships may thrive. 

    This is an excerpt from Ariah Velasquez' upcoming book release:  Love Lives: A guide to a successful relationship through communication, spirituality, and empathy.

Abandonment Depression: The way to Freedom of It. 


Abandonment Depression: The Way to Freedom of It!


There are 3 places this comes from. 

-One is not being encouraged to undergo risk taking behavior when a child and thereby not fully developing an “individual self”. If you were reprimanded for taking risks as a child  (ie. taking a step stool to get your own cup etc)...this eventually would cause you as a child to cling to your parent to get approval because when you showed self-initiative, you got punished.

-Another is actually due to fate. You actually were abandoned by a parent due to addiction, illness, or something else.  The age that this happened will determine the extent of the abandonment depression.

-Lastly, a personality trait/karmic wound that caused you to just be a more needy child and then found yourself being rejected because your needs far outweighed what was humanly possible to fulfill.


Or a combination of all!


What is the result of these childhood occurrences? As an adult, it could be elements of borderline personality disorder which in turn causes severe depression and or/ anxiety when threatened in any way of being pushed to face this deep-seated abandonment depression. Sometimes, to avoid this depression people either get really angry trying to force people not to push them into their deepest wound, or numb oneself through cutting, picking, ocd expressions, having affairs, drugs, alcohol etc. The problem is, that when the person with this issue feels any fear they will be abandoned, the feeling is so overwhelming, the panic so bad, that the result is leaning on coping mechanisms.


If this is your issue, as a spiritual being, how can you deal with this challenging abandonment depression that controls your life in so many ways? 




So, the steps to recovering?


-Say yes to safe, healthy, loving people to be your best friends and partner.

-When the abandonment thoughts come up, share them at first with the ones you fear will leave if appropriate. However, if after a year with someone in your life, you are still bringing these paranoid questions up, choose to IGNORE THE THOUGHTS UNLESS YOU HAVE OBVIOUS PROOF YOUR WORRIES ARE WARRANTED.

-Meditate on your fears. Use this Sikh Mantra/Yoga practice to dissolve fear:; or simply meditate everyday asking your fears to come up, then clear beliefs around those fears. If you don’t know how to do this, set up a session with me and I can teach you how. Here is a link to another 11 ways to transform fear from my blog note I wrote a while back: 11 Ways to Transform Fear

-Fill your days with meaningful work, and fun activities. The more you develop a sense of self, the less you will fear being devastated by someone leaving as you will feel like you have your OWN life.

-Read literature on Borderline Personality Disorder to gain insight. I suggest this book here:

-Do not react to try to stop anyone from abandoning you. When you want to react, do the opposite, then do your meditation to clear all that is coming up.

-Get healing! Having support from many places is key!



I send you much love and light. You can undo this painful wound. You will. You have. And so it is.



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The Twin Flame Is Magnetized Through A Heart Emanating Love 



The Twin Flame Is Magnetized Through A Heart Emanating Love


A twin flame is a counterpart of your soul that is either masculine or feminine in form or energetic flavor depending on how you have incarnated here. This counterpart may be in physical form, or in the spirit form.  Now more than ever, people are incarnating with both their twin flame counterparts in physical form so that as we merge more into a state of oneness, we get to experience it in all ways, all forms.  This is due to the amazing time we are in as Earth has birthed herself into 5D. Both counterparts wish to celebrate the immense light and joy that rests here NOW.


Many have found their twin flame, yet many are still searching. It is a thirst for a deep feeling of wholeness, love, and even romance that cause us as humans to search for this.  However, we say the searching is not necessary. As your heart begins to radiate an amount of love not just for others, but for self, your twin flame will be simultaneously experiencing the same healing. This WILL draw you towards each other.  Your souls are magnetized as the love frequency becomes purified. 


How can you get the heart to radiate on this level? Much of it is alchemical, intention, purification, and honestly looking at the self, one’s issues, and your mirrored reality. It is about realizing all is you, and as you realize all is you, you begin to look deeper and deeper within. The alchemical part has to do with receiving merely through consistent intention that your heart chakra be recalibrated and ascended to new frequencies of light.  One healing we help with has to do with bringing in beams of white light that literally ascend the frequency of the heart as it is ready.  You may simply ask for this while in your meditations from the keepers of the codes of your ascension which includes your own higher self of the light. 


When is the heart ready for the next deepening and infusion of the ascension codes?  It becomes more and more ready as you begin to vibrate into a state of love. Again, vibrating into a frequency of love comes about by being truly honest and authentic with where you have things left that need to be healed. The more you acknowledge what is there, the easier it will be for you to sit in the vibration of acceptance, thereby letting compassion and love infuse all limitations with the light of your being and the light of source.


Only when you let the fire of truth come in and you surrender to the things you fear most will things shift and will your heart and soul be ready to merge with your twin flame. Until then, it does not mean you will be alone, but it means you will have possibly soul mate relationships where there are lessons to be learned.  


The letting of the fire consume all struggles, patterns, and limitations is harder than it might sound. What this takes is really looking at any blind spots one might have. Sometimes this means you need the assistance of others who are not attached to your situation. This also takes a commitment to stop doing the old patterns or actions in your life, specifically with relationships.  The problem that many run into, is these patterns are often very appealing to continue.  They usually mask a deep fear of loneliness.  The desire for many souls to avoid loneliness and pain is precisely why sometimes ascension takes a whole lifetime. 


So you see, this can be very complicated, and yet, it is not impossible for if you continuously search for the light, crave the light, breathe in and out the light, these patterns will be revealed to you along with how to transcend them.  You may feel at times you need to handcuff yourself to your own self to stop going towards the old lessons, the old people showing up in new bodies, the old way! You may find yourself very uncomfortable in these times of waiting when fear and pain can emerge.  This is why we refer to the healing energy as fire. However, if you have chosen now as your time to do this part of your journey, we smile for in this new 5th dimensional Earth reality, you will be shifted much quicker.  You will not have to wait for years and years.  


You may also experience this consuming of patterns as the water element working its alchemy. All this means is you move through your pains, patterns, and struggles in a manner that has a lucid and flowing frequency. Both fire and water can do the same thing, with just different approaches.


Now as you feel your shift, remember, your twin flame may be in spirit form only. This does not mean you cannot have a happy relationship with someone in form. It only means, the sense of wholeness will really truly come from a sense of being completed by a spiritual energy. Neither is wrong. Those that feel they are completed by their connection with another are not wrong either. This is not needy when it is the twin flame. This is a sense of union with divine feminine and masculine even if your partner appears in a same sex vessel. We each are made of divine masculine and feminine principles. 


Another misconception is that if you are holding masculine or a feminine gender, when you find the opposite gender, that will be the divine completion.  Whether you are gay, straight, or bisexual has nothing to do with any of this! You will attract your twin flame when you feel internally on a spiritual level more androgynous. You may still feel on a human level one gender, and this is fine.  However, you will feel the divine qualities of masculine energies as well as female energies within in balance inside of you when this healing has fully taken place. 


Why the twin flame then?  Our soul is creative, and it wishes to experience aspects of itself through merging. This is why we are here. We can merge and not be in relationship because we are all one, and merging can happen through focus and consciousness...but many times we LIKE to experience the merging through physical connection.  There is a pleasure in having a body. Know this, and celebrate your body even if it is not always functioning the way you think it should. Throw all the SHOULDs out the window for now, you are awakening to divine neutrality, acceptance of all as just the way it needs to be. This is a KEY to this heart opening we have discussed. You may want things to change still, but wanting is actualized by intention. You can accept the here and now, while intending. If this is triggering the mind to chatter right now, try to not sort it out in this way. Just feel what we say in the heart, in the body. There are also encodings of knowledge in these words.


So we leave you with these final words to send you on your way: as you merge back with your twin flame, keep the heart surrendered, the mind honest, the will courageous, and the spirit unified.



Ariah Velasquez